Many couples might not know that January is commonly referred to as Divorce Month. This phenomenon is due to the observed spike in divorce filings at the beginning of each year. For many couples, the holiday season serves as a final attempt to salvage a relationship. However, when their attempt to reconcile fails, most couples only maintain a superficial peace to preserve family traditions.
By the time a new year is beginning, such couples are usually already contemplating a divorce. But perhaps, for some couples, only one spouse believes it’s time for a divorce. For spouses who are still holding out hope that their marriage might work, it can be disheartening to realize that their partner already gave up all hope. However, knowing about an impending divorce is better than being caught unawares when a partner files. As such, spouses should pay attention to tell-tale signs indicating their partner might be planning a January divorce.
Emotional distance
Suppose one spouse is actively trying to reconnect with their partner and the other party does not reciprocate these efforts; the other spouse might be contemplating a divorce. Spouses should suspect an impending separation if their partner has been unusually:
- Distant
- Withdrawn
- Less engaged in conversations and shared activities
These tell-tale signs might indicate deeper dissatisfaction than the other spouse might be aware of. Emotional detachment often precedes decisions to end a relationship.
Financial secrecy
Another indication that a spouse might be contemplating separation is being more guarded about financial matters. Some indications that this spouse is making plans in secret can include:
- Opening new accounts
- Changing passwords
- Avoiding discussions about money
These behaviors could indicate they’re preparing for financial independence.
Increased focus on independence
Most couples are used to doing most things together, even when they’re going through a rough patch. If one spouse starts making plans that exclude their partner, this could mean they’re preparing for a divorce. The other spouse should look out for indications like their spouse:
- Reconnecting with old friends
- Pursuing new hobbies
- Focusing on solo activities
These may be attempts to emotionally prepare for life after divorce.
As disheartening as it might be when a spouse gives up on their marriage, there’s little that a hopeful partner can do to revive the relationship. When the signs of an impending divorce are clear, it’s an opportunity to confront the end of the marriage head-on.