To the outside world, you and your spouse may seem like two people who are happy and satisfied with each other. While this may have been the case a few years ago, things have changed. You may be having constant verbal quarrels and tearing each other down. Sometimes, such gestures could signify that your marriage is coming to an end.
Although the simplest option would be divorce, you may want to take some time, especially if children are involved. Therefore, if you think you can reconcile, take the following actions before you commit to a divorce.
1. Work on your own emotional well-being
The first thing you should do to save your marriage is to fix your relationship with yourself. Instead, start by noting down the traits you want in your partner – like compassion, love, kindness and nurturing and ask yourself whether you manifest these qualities in yourself. By working on your own “inner peace” you may be able to improve your relationship.
2. Invest in more quality time
While romantic love and intimacy may be important, emotional intimacy is the lifeblood of a marriage. Therefore, spend quality time with your partner and participate in pleasurable activities. Try to find things that you can do together and spend a lot of time talking about your thoughts and feelings. That can help you and your spouse reconnect.
3. Consider marital counseling
Instead of throwing in the towel, an excellent way to save your marriage would be to get help. Through marriage counseling or couples therapy, you and your spouse will be able to recognize the underlying conflicts, and you’ll be able to improve your relationship.
If divorce does seem to be inevitable (despite your best efforts), consider seeking professional guidance every step of the way to protect your interests.