Divorce is one of the most difficult life events you can experience. What can make it particularly challenging is that you’re required to make multiple decisions that can affect you (and your children, if you have them) for many years to come. However, you have to make these decisions at a time when you’re likely emotionally fragile and possibly consumed by anger, sadness, fear and a host of other emotions.
If you’ve never been through a divorce (and even if you have), it can be an overwhelming process. That’s why many people enlist the help of certified divorce coaches.
What can a divorce coach do for you?
Your certified divorce coach is not meant to be your therapist. Neither do they take the place of an attorney or a financial advisor. They can, however, be a valuable addition to your team. Among the things a divorce coach can help you with are:
- Explaining the various aspects of the divorce process and helping you manage your expectations
- Helping you determine what you want in the divorce and what you envision for your future
- Improving your communications skills so you can better articulate and advocate for what you want
- Getting you mentally prepared for negotiations with your spouse, court proceedings and other difficult aspects of the divorce process and co-parenting
Helping you get emotional clarity so that you’re making decisions based on what’s best for you and your children rather than out of anger, revenge or other feelings
A divorce coach isn’t there just to be your cheerleader. While they can help lift you up when you need it, they may also help you understand your spouse’s point of view when your feelings about them are preventing you from productively working towards custody, property and support agreements.
While you may be hesitant about paying yet one more professional, the right certified divorce coach can be a valuable addition to your team. They can help you work with your legal and financial pros more effectively to get the best possible settlement to move forward.